The Relational Price of Debt
Seeing as we have years to talk about the details of our debt
situation and our road to recovery; I thought it might be good to lay
some groundwork and write about some of the non-money realities of
being so deep in debt.
causing friction in our household. Like most guys, I'm a "fixer" by
nature. I see a problem, I fix the problem. Talking about it,
meditating on it, considering the ramifications of it are all nice
things. But fixing it is really the bottom line. So I've been in war
mode. And debt is my enemy. But Kathie is not my enemy. She is my
bride and my partner. This is where things get dicey. Our plan from
the words "I do" was that when we had a baby; she would be a SAHM
(Stay at Home Mom). And that's where we are. I work which brings home
the bulk of our household income. And even though this is the ideal
situation for us overall; I can't help but feel a little bit like I'm
fighting the debt war alone on the financial front. Now don't get me wrong. My wife is AWESOME! A week from now we'll
celebrate eight years of married life. And I'm learning to value her
more and more as time goes on. But we're regular people and we have
arguments just like anyone else. We bicker. We huff and puff.
Occasionally we go to our corners for a time out. But we also forgive,
reconnect and move forward. It's not easy. I'm just as good at holding
a grudge as anyone. And compromising and forgiving means that I don't
always feel like I've "won" in the traditional sense. But financial
peace is meaningless if there's not a relational peace in our family. So here we are. Just walking day by day. Not only fighting to erase
our financial debt. But working hard to have a relational bank account
that's overflowing.
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